Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Reality Check - Sad Story - Strong Msg

I follow many blogs, with the exception of a few very close people the bulk of my blog list used to be infant loss families. When I started this blog I also started following other blogs that didn't always end with infant loss. I don't know how I stumbled upon this blog but I became a follower of this new mom with a beautiful baby boy. I'm sad to say that on Tues her sweet lil boy passed away at 4 1/2 mo old. I couldn't believe it when I read it, I don't know this mother personally and even through blogging we aren't close, but my heart aches for her and what she is dealing with right now.

As I went through her blog trying to find out if he was sick of anything like that, I noticed that she took so many pictures of her sweet baby. It seems like she posted a new pic of him every other day, most of the time without any text, just these super cute pictures of a very happy baby. As hard as this loss is for her right now I know that in the future she will look back and be so grateful for the many pictures she took of her sweet baby boy. In just 4 1/2 months I bet she has over 1,000 pictures, she also has some great video feed and all of these things are going to provide her lasting comfort and memories of her angel.

I've always been a big picture taker, everyone always "sighs" when I make them wait until I get my camera, all I say is " I'm capturing the memories". Every time someone has their 1st child I always say to them "take lots of pictures of anything and everything", but for some reason I've noticed with most when their 2nd and 3rd comes along the picture taking comes to almost a complete stop. I don't know how many years I'm going to have with my family, but I do know one thing, when it's their time or even when it's my time, I want a million pictures to provide lasting memories.

People have asked me why I have so many FB albums? or why I take so many pictures? But after seeing the amount of pictures she took of her lil one just sitting on the couch, I realized that maybe I don't take enough. I have lots of pictures that I don't post but I could always take more.

I can only imagine that having two in the house will be hard and very time consuming. I probably wont blog as often and may not make multiple fb post each day. But I'm going to do everything in my power to keep my camera close and keep that battery charged. I'm going to take more pictures of Vashon, VJS3 and Van, I'm going to take more video feed of the little things my kids do like laughing or dancing. I'm going to capture every moment and memory.

I hate that it took a loss like this to realize that time is precious and sometimes short. My heart really hurts for this family and every time someone experiences a loss it really makes me think.


  1. That is so heartbreaking. I totally agree about the picture thing. I'm already obsessed with taking pictures anyways, so I hope to always keep that up. When my little guy was first born and in the hospital with me for 3 days, I probably took 500 pictures in those 3 days. Pictures are the best memories.

  2. My heart goes out to this mother. :( You can never have enough pics of your children, that's for sure.

  3. I, too, am a bereaved parent, twice bereaved. Having buried both my sweet girls as toddlers I can say I know her pain. How wonderful that she has you for a friend even though she may not know it. You are so right on about the camera's role in life. I think of those in history who have suffered the loss of their children w/ nothing to look at after they are gone (Lincoln, Shakespeare, etc...) & don't know how they did it. Blessings to you & her!

  4. Oh, one more thing: Your phrase "One that walks beside me & one that flies above me" is SO AMAZING! I can't believe I have not heard it before. I will be using it now myself. Thanks!

  5. stephanie, i just wanted to come back and say thank you for this post and for thinking of us. you are so right, i am SO thankful for all of the pics that i took of my little boy. ♥♥


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